


That's right! This morning I was told to go away. I don't know whether to be sad that she doesn't need me to help her anymore or to be happy that we can both get dressed at the same time now. She's just becoming more independent. I've thoroughly enjoyed the last three years and it's time for me to let her be her own person. She likes to pick out her own shoes in the morning, although sometimes I have to "help" her pick a different pair. I think she'd really enjoy picking out her clothes too, but I'm not ready for that. Instead, I set out her clothes in the evening and ask if she'd like to wear a particular shirt/sweater. That way, there's no fussing in the morning and her clothes are waiting for her to put on. It's amazing how much she likes to do on her own now. While my mommy instincts try to do things for her, I'm working on stepping back and letting her try to do things on her own. I think it's good for both of us, but it's hard for me. For example, she had such a blast this year decorating the Christmas tree. She was grabbing breakable ornaments and helping put them on the tree. I could see how happy she was and how much fun she was having. If you know me though, I was on pins and needles hoping that she wouldn't drop them. Life is way too short to worry about the small stuff. Things don't have to be perfect and if something gets broken...oh well. Becoming a mom has really changed me for the better. It's the joy of seeing your child do something on their own and seeing how proud they are of their accomplishments that's important. It's not the stuff that will be remembered, it's the experiences that will last a lifetime.
I thought potty training was complete when your child stops wearing diapers/pull-ups and starts using the potty. Seems pretty simple, doesn't it? Well, I've discovered that potty training continues long after the big switch from pull-ups to panties. It's the "training" part that I've been working on for the past month. While we've been fortunate enough to not have any bedtime accidents, we are having paper training issues. That's right, "You wet it, you wipe it!" My daughter can't seem to get that through her head. Boys don't use paper, why should she? She uses the potty and pulls up her panties. Then, she walks funny and complains that her panties are wet. I've reached the point of frustration and cannot understand why she will not use paper. The problem is that she knows what she's doing. Sometimes, she'll say, "I used paper, Mommy," and I praise her. Yet, other times she'll choose not to and she makes this little smirk when I ask her about it. She has a facial expression that she does when she's embarrassed or has done something that she knows is wrong. I just don't get it!
The other part of training I've been working on is getting her to poop in her own bathroom. Instead, she goes in ours because she doesn't want to make hers stinky. It took me a while to get her to start using hers. Now she asks if I'll spray after she goes. It cracks me up! She recently made the observation that girls sit and boys stand to go potty. So, the other day she asked me if boys stand to go poo poo too. I don't think she understands why they can't do that. I'm just thankful that they don't.